Across the globe with Brooke Stilla: From Australia to Canada
By: Josephine Naghavie
Published on: November 1st, 2024
Born and raised in Australia, Brooke Stilla is an accomplished singer, dancer, and fitness influencer known for her passion and determination. In 2018, she embarked on a life-changing adventure, moving from Australia to Canada. This transition marked the beginning of a new chapter in her life. The move also helped her learn a valuable life lesson: “You can never please everyone, and you ALWAYS have to do what is right for you and you only.”
A desire for adventure and personal growth drove Stilla’s decision to relocate to Canada. She believed that stepping out of her comfort zone and immersing herself in a new environment would be a transformative experience. While romance played a pivotal role in her decision, she emphasizes the valuable lessons she learned along the way. Stilla also highlights the importance of embracing change and taking control of one’s destiny.
Challenges and culture shock
Moving across the globe presented its fair share of challenges for Stilla. Adapting to life away from her childhood home was a significant adjustment, coupled with the isolation of being in a foreign country. The absence of a support system during moments of vulnerability, such as her first panic attack, underscored the importance of self-reliance.
“I had to learn how to be my one and only supporter,” she explained. “I am also best friends with my sister, so I really missed having her around.”
Additionally, establishing a sense of belonging in a new workplace and community posed its own set of difficulties. Stilla openly acknowledges that she still grapples with a sense of belonging in Toronto. Her outgoing nature clashed with the need to temper her candidness in a new cultural context.
However, she found solace in online communities like the “Aussies in Toronto” Facebook page and the music community, where she discovered like-minded individuals who welcomed her with open arms.
“I believe reaching out to places or online forums that align with your interests is important in aiding the transition to a new country!” She explained.
The COVID-19 pandemic, while initially isolating, ultimately reinforced her resilience and determination.
“I nearly moved back to Australia in the pandemic, and something told me that it was not the time for me to leave yet,” she said. “I trusted that instinct and moved out on my own for the first time and showed myself what true independence is.”
Building a support network
Stilla’s journey in Canada was marked by the gradual formation of social circles through her involvement in various pursuits like music, fitness, and work. “I started writing in music in 2019 and met a group of other talented singer/songwriters at DreamHouse studios. I finally felt like I was welcomed somewhere and found my people!”
Her initial hesitancy to establish connections due to trust issues gave way to a thriving community that provided a sense of home. This led to the creation of a community-run club called “My Run Club” –– a testament to her commitment to physical and mental well-being. Through journaling and self-discovery, she navigated moments of homesickness, ultimately finding comfort in her newfound independence.
Stilla also has found that people from Toronto are just as outgoing as Australians. While she initially thought she would make friends with people born in Canada, many connections she has formed have been with other newcomers. She explained that the amazing part about Toronto is its vast, diverse culture, and welcoming spirit.
Being proud of accomplishments
Stilla’s time in Canada has been punctuated by significant achievements, including singing anthems at MLB games and releasing her own music. She also completed her first race and marathon, demonstrating her unwavering determination to excel in various aspects of her life. She has shown inspiring dedication to accomplish all of these achievements. However, she still gives herself space to be proud of the smaller things as she finds her footing in a new country. She also embraces new challenges and opportunities.
“I now have hockey equipment!” She said, “It is a process of learning as an adult. I also found a love for running in Toronto, inspired by my incredible partner. Since then, we both ran our first two Toronto marathons this year.”
Finding things you love in your new country
Discovering what you love in a new country is an adventure, including savouring local cuisine. Stilla has discovered a love for Canadian classics such as poutine and pumpkin pie, something she had never tried in Australia.
She also has found it fun to share Australian slang with her friends and partner. She explained that the first time she said “arvo,” which is Australian for “afternoon,” to someone, they were very confused.
“We have a lot of slang in Australia, and I still do not think my partner nor my social circle knows everything yet!” Stilla said.
Stilla elaborated by explaining that every experience unveils a piece of your heart. Embrace the unfamiliar, and let it shape your new passions. You will not only find new things to love but also develop a deeper understanding of yourself.
Advice for aspiring movers
Reflecting on her journey, Stilla offers practical advice for those contemplating a similar international move. She stresses the importance of financial preparedness, thorough research, and joining online communities specific to the destination. Moreover, she underscores the significance of moving for oneself, prioritizing personal growth and well-being above anything else.
“I am in a more comfortable space now,” Stilla said. “If I still feel alone in Toronto, I have an extremely loving and supportive partner and an amazing social circle who are very accepting of me. This has helped overcome those feelings.”
Brooke Stilla’s journey from Australia to Canada is a testament to the power of embracing change and pursuing personal growth. Her story serves as an inspiration to those considering similar international moves. She emphasizes the importance of self-reliance, resilience, and a commitment to one’s own well-being.
“Saying all of this feels like it was so long ago,” Stilla said. “I was so young when I moved here, and I feel that I am a completely different person now.” Through her experiences, Stilla reminds us that true independence is forged in the vessel of self-discovery.