Discussing mental health with teens
By: Meaghan Flokstra
Published on: April 19th, 2024
Mental health is a tricky subject for anyone to talk about, and it can be especially difficult for teens. Being a teenager can be confusing and frustrating, and it is important to make sure that teens have knowledge and resources on how to deal with mental health issues when they come up.
Start an open conversation
One of the most important parts of talking to teens about mental health is to take charge and start the conversation. Mental health can be uncomfortable to talk about, so it can be tempting to avoid the topic until the teen brings it up. Instead, try reaching out first. If a teen is going through a hard time, it is important that they already know there is someone they can trust.
When starting the conversation, make sure to prioritise being open and genuine. Be willing to talk about your own struggles and also to listen to the teen’s. Avoid passing judgement or dismissing the teen’s concerns. The goal is for both you and the teen to feel comfortable speaking honestly.
Discuss stressors
There are many things in teens’ lives that can be particularly stressful. Big life changes, such as moving to a new school or starting their first job, can contribute to mental health struggles.
When you notice that something is happening in a teen’s life that could be stressful, talk to them about it, even if they seem to be doing fine. Teens might not always want to talk right away, but it can be helpful just to acknowledge that they are going through a tough time.
Connect over shared interests
Supporting teens can even look like taking an interest in their hobbies and passions. Paying attention to teenagers when they talk about the things they love is a great way to let them know that you care about them and value their thoughts.
Additionally, simply spending time with teens can establish trust and help them to feel less alone. Consider fun and relaxing activities such as going for a walk together or playing a game to give them an opportunity to let loose in a safe environment.
Provide resources
Teens may find it difficult to talk to close adults in their lives. While it is natural to want the kids in your life to feel comfortable telling you anything, it is also important to make sure they have other people and places they can trust.
Many schools have a guidance counsellor available for students, which can be a great start. Additionally, Ontario’s Ministry of Health website offers a list of mental health services for youth and children, which includes both regional services as well as remote options.
Respect their boundaries
Sometimes, teens will not feel ready to discuss their mental health. When it seems that they are struggling, it can be difficult not to pressure them to talk about what they are going through. However, trying to force the conversation can backfire and instead cause them to retreat even more.
Check in with teens regularly, but let them set the pace. Mental health is a deeply personal topic, and making sure your teen feels safe and respected is a crucial part of making them feel comfortable enough to reach out when they’re ready.